Do you like to argue? Whether or not YOU do, you probably can think of someone who seams to enjoy disagreeing. Arguments are contagious. I've gotten pulled into many arguments that eventually went nowhere and didn't contribute any progress to anything at all. So why argue?
We argue to prove a point. We argue to convince. We argue to change behavior. But, how effective is that? Not very.
Whenever I catch myself arguing now, I pause long enough to breathe deeply and think of a question. And then another question. And then another question.
It's harder to argue with a question.
And with a question, we both might learn something.
-- doug smith
What have you learned today?